Narcissism

I think most everyone who goes through this situation will deal with a partner's narcissism. Whether they have full-on NPD or just narcissistic traits, you will have to research and cope with your divine other's worst behavior if you want to be with them or find your own inner happiness. If you're currently separated (like I am from my twin), you probably do not want to speak to them or see what they are doing. Good. Your partner still has too much baggage to give you any lasting long-term happiness. But the key is to not hate them or write them off forever. Give them time and accept that it may take longer than you envision or prefer. You must move on your respective solo journey if you ever want to get closer to union.

Remember that your twin doesn't just reflect your own problems (as an opposite, not a duplicate) but they also heal your wounds and cure karmic debts; emotional, psychological & physical health problems.

Your masculine twin was fated to develop this unlikable personality so you can be the lovable one who teaches them how to love. Also, if they have personality disorders, its likely that they are teaching you to forgive or understand someone in your past with the same problems. If your twin is a narcissist, maybe your mother or father is one too. Maybe you were once so you can help this masculine.

While you are understanding how and why your twin is so emotionally abusive, distant, dishonest, dismissive, manipulative, childish, impulsive, fearful, easily depressed, etc. its better for your own sanity and well-being to get them out of your life. The Runner-Chaser phase can be devastating but also a blessing. If your twin blocks you or drives you away with bad behavior, you will learn how to protect yourself and not fall for their games. This will teach you how to be more successful in life and not bullied or abused like in your past.

Its good to study how the Borderline personality functions as its a milder form of NPD.

A real narcissist has a false persona they show the world and no knowledge of their true repressed self. They will violently defend the image they project to the world, even if it means lying or criminality, because it will shatter their worldview or psyche to accept they are lying to themselves.

BPD, on the other hand, has the same split between False and True Self (Super Ego and Shadow) but they have some awareness of their true self. They are simply afraid of exposing it because they were punished or neglected for being honest as a child. They've always wanted to release this side of themselves but gave up or expected someone else to release it for them. This someone else is really you, but the Masculine chose the Karmic for false EGO reasons.

The Feminine represents death of idealistic illusions for the Masculine, which is harder than the removal of negative illusions that the Feminine finds during spiritual recognition with your other self.

The Masculine will run or chase you away whenever you wake them up too fast or make them feel strong emotions they've never felt. Thats why its best to avoid them and let them grow up. The Masculine is a scared child protected by a created bully persona. They must fight an internal battle where the true self claims ownership of the mind. The M will do this Shadow work when you do yours. It takes longer for the M because they have issues with shame, guilt, reflection and taking ownership.

A person with BPD will escape into work, obsessive behaviors, shopping, sex, video game addiction or substance abuse anytime they "split" or the False self takes over. They will even repress memories that cause shame and act like they never hurt you. This comes off like a narcissist but its more like a 2nd personality that replaces the 1st. This persona is shut down emotionally and will hurt you. They crave solitude and anyone who believe the lies they've created. But simply knowing you will cause them to change slowly as long as you don't trigger them with declarations of love or falling for their manipulation. Even if they ask you for sex or flirting or secret contact, deny them. They must learn right from wrong; which they never learned as children.

As long as their dominant personality is the False Self, they will only use and abuse you. DO NOT reveal your secrets or desires to them as they will use them as ammo to manipulate you for easy narcissistic supply. All they crave is attention from their "Favorite Person" (a clinical term). This cancerous side of them does not want commitment or honest communication with you. They want to know they control you and can hurt you. The good in them wants to be with you and will occasionally be honest in declaring love but if they are too afraid to say it to the world publicly, just run. As soon as they meet you, the False self starts dying, which is why they lose their minds and attack you. Engaging with them and this False self will only pause or even set your journey backwards. Trust me!

They will stalk your social media. Block them! Don't let them know what you are doing, how you feel today or what you want from them. As soon as they know what you desire, they decide to not give it to you. As soon as they know whats unimportant to you, they will value it. Because the Masculine's mind is split; at war with itself and trapped in dualism. They duel with you, with their karmic, with their family, with their brain, even between the left and right lobes of their brain & worse between angels & demons in their auric field. When they choose on their own to become balanced, they will choose union with reality. Until then, let them "enjoy" being fake.

If you give them positivity, they will return negativity. Remove yourself from their life and become (reasonably) more selfish, then they will tune themselves to the positive. The Masculine's bad behavior can definitely make you more narcissistic, unforgiving and selfish and thats their gift to you. This is the hardest lesson of your journey: You will not love them the same as when you first met them. They will become better but you will see all the ugliness in them. But only when you know the true self, the worst and best selves of your partner, can you truly love them or anyone (including you!).

The Masculine rejects (-) anyone who loves (+)  them. The Masculine feels rejection (-) from anyone they love (-). The Karmic doesn't show them true love and that is comfortable and normal to your Masculine's wounded ego. It reminds them of an abusive or neglectful parent who sometimes loved them and sometimes didn't or two parents who were on different pages. Your masculine must learn this is not how people treat each other. Would you want to raise kids with a Masculine who abuses who they love? If they have children with the Karmic, you dodged a bullet!

These are sad and tough truths but they will put your mind at ease so you can accept how reality flows. All that matters is your following a Godly path. Your twin takes a different route to get to the same source - God. And God is love. If you are getting better, you will find each other eventually. Don't rush or fall behind.  Let God & his angelic spirits do the heavy lifting. All we must do in the physical world is avoid bad spiritual choices.

All you need is love. What you don't need is abusive "love" or loving someone who takes and doesn't give back. LOVE YOU. LOVE LOVE. MAKE LOVE YOUR #1 PRIORITY. Embrace nature. Embrace children. Embrace community. Embrace health & fitness. Embrace education. Embrace your soul by expressing it 24/7/ Live life the best you can, for the best you &  ONLY for you.

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